Raising Respectful Kids in a Rude World: Seven Short Easy Steps

Nowadays, kids have the ease and luxury of life. At a snap of their fingers or at the stomp of their feet, everything is immediately handed to them. While some parents see this as “normal” kid behavior and call these tantrums “part of growing up”, it is this kind of behavior that makes me not want to have kids.

Rude and spoiled kids are everywhere. You see them on your trip to the mall or even at church seated right beside you. Sometimes you’d wonder if the mom or dad are just too nice, too busy or to simply put – still too young to raise a kid themselves.

Becoming a parent is part of my plans but not for the next six years. I may not know all there is about proper parenting but here are seven quick steps to dealing with rude spoiled kids. These seven steps have been based on Gary D. McKay’s book, “Teaching Your Children the Power of Mutual Respect & Consideration”, plus a few personal principles from which my parents have raised me from.

Step 1: Start Early. If you notice your kid acting all spoiled, well you must realize that it’s your fault. As early as the stomps, rants and screams start, practice saying “NO” and sticking to it.

Step 2: Prioritize and Set Limits. Spoiled kids have gotten their way with just about everything and anything. By limiting their resources and their activities, you give them room to prioritize the vital tasks at hand.

Step 3: Reward Good Behavior. I won’t go on an all out psychological theory to explain this. The simple thing is if the kid does something good, reward them. Once they are rewarded they are latched onto the thinking that good behavior equals gifts, goodies and games.

Step 4: Ignore Bad Behavior. Ironically, spoiled or rude kids act ruder when they notice that people give them the time of day. Let them stomp, scream and cry all they want. Ignore them at such instances. Kids will immediately stop once they see that they aren’t noticed.

Step 5: Find the root of the problem. Spoiled kids are the product of any of the following: rich parents, lenient parents, very young parents or busy parents. The problem varies with each kid and it’s just a matter of finding out what triggered the behavior.

Step 6: Observe your behavior. I’m no parent but from what I’ve observed from parents younger or my age, they tend to spoil their kids. Ask yourself: Will buying my kid a PSVita really push him to study harder at school?

Step 7: Download an educational game to teach them all the basics. With the advancement in technology, learning is easy in just a touch of a button. Kids nowadays are so tech savvy that they have access to everything on the web. If you’ve got a problem with your kid and their “spoiled” behavior, then the application, “Maddie & Matt’s A to Z’s of Good Manners & Values”, is your best bet. “Maddie & Matt” was created by a team of Filipinos from two application development companies in the Philippines namely AppLabs Digital Studios and Kid Apps Inc.  

What’s so good about it, you ask? It’s an interactive storybook that teaches kids of all age all 26 letters of good manners and proper conduct. With other fun features like picture me, coloring time, live objects and trivia, your little tot will be prim and proper by the end of “Maddie & Matt’s” adventures. Reviews are already in and basing from all of the feedback, “Maddie & Matt” are a big help to their little kids. Allow me to translate one review stated in Filipino which says, “I noticed my niece/ nephews change in behavior. He/she became well-behaved and his/her manner of speaking changed greatly all thanks to the application Maddie & Matt. To those who are reading this comment, I am stating the truth and am very happy with the results of the app. I also take pride in the fact that Filipinos were behind this ingenious app.The best part about this app – it’s free for download on the Apple App Store for the iPad 1, 2 and 3. So if you’ve got a “little” problem at home, then “Maddie & Matt” are here to help re-establish all 26 letters of good manners and values in your kid.



  1. bloggerizta · July 3, 2012

    This is a great post. It’s nice that you’re able to incorporate your personal thoughts and introduce Maddie and Matt at the same time. Just saw some minor lapses, like the missing “to” before “simply put” and there’s something missing in this sentence “If you notice your kid acting all spoiled well know that it’s your fault.” 😀

  2. Snippy Snips · July 3, 2012

    “Spoiled kids are the product of any of the following: rich parents, lenient parents, very young parents, busy parents or have no parents.” Maybe you should reconstruct this sentence because the “have no parents” part is a bit off. 🙂

    It’s a breeze reading your posts because you engage the readers well, I will look forward to your next posts! 🙂

    • Shiol.Devincross · July 3, 2012

      hahaha, ok i’ll remove the “no parents” part. thanks! 🙂

  3. daintydreamer · July 3, 2012

    I like how you introduced Maddie and Matt’s to your readers. Nice trick and nice blog. Hence, “It’s an interactive storybook that teaches kids of all age all 26 letters of good manners and proper conduct.” I think something’s missing in this sentence or rephrase it. 🙂

    • Shiol.Devincross · July 3, 2012

      what do you think is missing? 😛 i have absolutely no clue what to add XD

  4. milkybunnie · July 3, 2012

    ”If you notice your kid acting all spoiled well know that it’s your fault.” -got confused with this. Also, I just noticed the “tagalog” comment about the app, maybe you could translate it or whatever, for the sake of other people who can’t understand Filipino:) Nevertheless, it’s a good idea to put downloading an educational app on the steps since most of the kids nowadays are techy and are into technology.

    • Shiol.Devincross · July 3, 2012

      ah, i think i should have placed a comma before well. thanks for the heads up. and i’ll “try”translating” the tagalog comment, i suck at filipino :))

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